A Veteran Blogger’s Advice on Growing Traffic and Finding Community — Discover

Six years into her blogging adventure, Susie Lindau has many solid insights to share.

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Five (5) Clever Ways to Spend a Looong Weekend When Alone and Broke

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Five (5) Clever Ways to Spend a Looong Weekend When Alone and Broke

It’s another loong weekend after one looong weekend last week! Everybody is looking forward for this moment. After a tiring and exhausting working days, here comes the time to go out and have fun with people who matter to us. It’s time to unwind and make the most out of these rare rest days. But what if your plans did not work out as planned? Oh well, I think these five clever and happy ways to spend this weekend (when you’re alone and broke) may be given a big shot!

1.Master your laundry.Mastering your laundry means you will meticulously work on it, getting rid of all stains scattered around your clothes including those old ripped jeans you only washed once since purchase. Folding and ironing them after would be fun! Trust me because I know lol! You see, it will take much of your time and will forget desperately envisioning that you should now be with your funny and cool nephews/nieces and not to mention your slightly nagging mom, pretty sissies-in-law and bully brother goons! Of course you are missing them to the highest level, but it won’t do you any harm to think that you can still spend time with them even if it’s not a long weekend after all.

2. Eject your overstaying cockroaches, mosquitoes, mice and other strangers  from your dwelling place.

  When we are busy working during regular days, we tend to do our household chores fast and easy most of the time, especially when we live alone and has no kasambahay to take care of the job. So this time, you have all the time in the world. You can now dig every corner of your place and send your “friends” away. A water-based spray may be of help to finally eject these informal settlers from your property. And hope to send out those unseen buddies there, too (playing suspense and thriller sounds effect haaaarrr…).  Kudos! You’re home is now safe, clean and alien-free haven to live without spending money. Thanks to long weekends!

3.  Reunite with your old, cold and longing books in your dusty shelves.

Not only an intellectually brilliant creature will be borne out of this wise decision and also a time well-spent will pass without regrets. Play genius and knowledgeable in American Politics with the work of Royce Flippin in his The Best American Political Writing 2002. Try to think outside the box with Lynn Sherr or understanding your better-half and/or your sweethearts through the old but ever reliable piece of John Gray in his Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus – Starting Over…and many more… When you are into stuff like these, nothing is wasted and you can be in places all at the same time. So the next time you worry about being alone and broke during these days, just grab an ally from your shelves. It’s 101 % free and with a lot perks for you to discover!

4. Shake and wake those sleeping belly and hiding muscles in your hot (invisible) bod until you give it a try hehehe. 

When you are alone… and broke (arghh), the only thing to prevent aggravating this situation is to give your spirit a boost.

Studies show that movements and other physical activities such as yoga, aerobics, workouts, stretchings and other similar stuff produce a happy hormone beneficial to us and will make us feel better, ready for another thousand steps forward and onward. Indeed, no single centavo was spent for these but few booty shakes! and maybe some calisthenics for your health and fitness!

5. And the last, but not the least – write love letters.

It may sound very old school but love letters are still the best and has that elusive “kilig” effects. The truthfulness of its content may be conveyed easily and thinking that it was handwritten with effort and love provides that feeling beyond measure…knowing that someone cares and thinks about you in his/her own special way.

So what are you waiting for? It is guaranteed battery and load free! Grab your paper and pen from your study table, and scribble your thoughts now! Who knows who will be blessed and touched for a simple but sincere story from your heart.

Enjoy your weekends!  Comments and ideas from you about this topic will matter so please let us know. Be blessed!

 

Three (3) fundamental things to consider while in a topsy turvy and/or DIY (Define-It-Yourself) relationship

You’re not just gonna experience trigeminal  headache in your journey to survive in any kind of relationship and enduring almost-forever-waiting-time, but you’ll also lose sight of what lies ahead, beneath and underneath your sooo colorful world if you are not just stuck somewhere else (just thinking what if). And since this topic is very personal to me, I am sharing you three (3) effective ways to endure and survive while still in a DIY (Define-It-Yourself) relationship.

First: Do not wait. Live your life.

 Literally, don’t wait. Just live your life and enjoy it to the fullest. Waiting doesn’t have to be boring and frustrating. I’m calling this stuff waiting because you are not just waiting for anyone’s future acts but waiting for your own turn. Maybe because by now, you aren’t certain what you really want to and undecided yet…whether to wait a little more time and/or stop and take the crossroads and/or take the u-turn slot.. In either way.. At least for the time being… Exploring what the world can offer you is not actually a cliche and a bad idea after all. Carpe Diem…As I was told by someone who is dear to me. Life is indeed short. Nevertheless, there will be times when you will hesitate to do what you want because he might not be amenable to it, like when he is not and will never be a part of the fun and adventure. Try something new. If running, trekking and mountain climbing are not your bets, give ’em a second thought and try to reconsider. I myself became too engrossed with these stuff and I forgot that I am waiting for what the stars above might be pouring down on me, lols! It’s only when I stopped  exploring and enjoying life that I think I started to begin doubting everything… and I don’t wanna hold on any longer… (awww..) But hey! it’s only when you make up your mind, when you explore your feelings that your choices somehow becomes clear… and realize that life is not really as flavorless as you think it was.

Second: Spend more time with your loved ones and friends.  

  See? When you are with him, you tend to forget everything.. everything that matters and equally important to you. Your world revolves around him and nothing less… nothing more… But when you spend more time with the people around you, your family, friends and others who might be waiting also to get your attention, you will realize what you are really missing in life. Fun… and the opportunity to be appreciated and more so… to be loved. There will be a countless caravan of good-looking guys and a good-catch (maybe) everywhere… but a losing friend or someone in your relationship borne from biology can never be found everywhere.. and when they’re gone? a part of you is taken away with them.. It’s not too late..Whether you are in a happy and almost perfect relationship, they are just waiting for you. Now.

Third: Love… Take it or Leave it.

It might be everyone’s favorite verse during Sunday school and/or one that is up close and very personal to you. You just have to love… love and love… In any way you choose, just love. But the first commandment here is love yourself first. It won’t be easy to love others if nothing has left for you. What is inside of you will ooze and radiate from within if indeed it is there and overflowing… Loving this way does not mean losing yourself to someone alone, and let your value as a person be put in vain and be taken for granted. Into each life, into any kind of relationship…when you took the risk of giving a part of you and entrusting your heart… and your life, you are never quite sure that everything will fall into place as you want it and dream it to be… It is always a risk… You allow yourself to be trapped into a situation when all you have to do is hope… and love. If you aren’t willing and able to do it, the decision is still yours… and your options are just right there…♥♥♥♥

TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT. 

too long the wait? or too close to give up?

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Congratulations to me! It’s been fifteen (15) years! and counting? Whoaaa… sounds like forever, right? And maybe… just maybe… you wanna hold on… blame it to the time spent for a loooong time… but a part of you, a tiny voice inside is screaming to let go and kadima.

Today is our 15th year and 3rd monthsary, to be exact. Like anyone else might feel, it’s as if the fun has gone since time immemorial. It has become a routine. And mind you, we almost forgot this day.

So why I am writing about this?  

“Waaaaaaaaahhhh,” because we are not yet engaged at this very moment! We are not yet together and we were miles apart! We have no plans! Nothing! Uhm.. let me clarify, anyway… He is just in the province and I’m in the Metro, not overseas (grin). Now, going back to my point. In other words, my bebies (plural of bebi, duh?), I have already entered in the realm of “oldmaid” category! no longer funny!) and I’m losing my sense of self. Because I am making decision not just for myself… I have to consider the relationship, both families and common friends and a lot more. It’s no longer about me. Everyone else expects for the big day and they’re not giving up…just yet.

But on a serious note, I’m giving up for the nth time. The saddest part of this situation is the fact that you found no more reason to hold on. Of course, the love is there. It will always be there. You don’t need to be a scholar to understand that this thing is no longer healthy. I am losing me! I am losing or I have already lost the best years of my life waiting for nothing… I wanna get married to the man I truly love…I wanna have kids of my own… smart and cute little creatures screaming and messing around the house with their laughter… I don’t wanna grow old alone and lonely… I want a family! Arrrggghh… the pain is real, though. The same old question stirs up again.. How? Can I do it all my myself? (Awww). But we have gone this far, right? We have already established bonding with our respective families and friends. The whole town knew we’re going there, soon. We have known each other well, from the most obnoxious behavior one possesses to the most noble one if any. It’s difficult to start anew if we are going to break it up. Maybe because this has become our comfort zone and it would take us quite some time before we could get used to another kind of relationship.  Now tell me, is it too long the wait? or too close to give up?